August 21st, 2004

You are only as good as your word.

I have never betrayed any confidence I’ve ever sworn myself to.
When asked to keep a secret I keep it.
Even when I really wish I didn’t know the secret.
I will keep any confidence made to me while of sound mind until such
time as I am released from that confidence. (IE as long as you are not
planning to kill anyone or similar, your secret is safe with me.)
Regardless of what happened between myself and anyone else,
if I promised to keep a confidence, it remains safe with me.
No matter what.
I treat the privacy and secrets of others with the same reverence and
respect I want my own secrets and privacy to be treated with.
Why is keeping one’s word so important? Maybe it’s because we come
into this world with nothing but our flesh and if we’re fortunate, our voice
and our "self." As long as we have a brain and a soul and we take care
of them both, whatever happens to the flesh that "self" is the most important
thing that we have and the only thing we can hope to keep.
The rest is transitory.
All the DVDs and shiny things in the world won’t fill that hole should we fail
to honor that self. We’re not islands. We’re all interconnected.
The importance of keeping one’s word is intrinsic to the principle of keeping
true to one’s own self. When you betray a confidence made in faith you betray
much more than one person. You are really socking it to yourself.
It’s old and worn but the saying is true.
We really are only as good as our word. Those who break their promises
thoughtlessly, carelessly or even from spite and anger are taking out a huge
chunk of their own selves. All the platitudes and justifications they present
to themselves and others won’t fill the whistling void inside themselves.
It won’t matter how much time, gossip, effort, money or frantic denial they
expend in their attempts to drown it out or plug the hole.
It’s a miserable way to go and I pity those who can’t figure it out. I’m grateful
I have the mental and emotional tools required to keep such people at a
reasonable distance.
Most of all I thank the powers that be and those who serve as my
moral compass in this world because you guys keep me from playing in traffic
too often to count and have inspired me to avoid tearing any gaping holes in my
own self.
Thanks for helping me learn and know these things.
Thank you for relying on me and in turn permitting me to rely on you in faith.
You may continue to rely on me for the rest of our lives. :)